|Oh really. You want to keep flirting after you find out he's taken. Let's not.|
A couple guys at the bar, asked him if he would do another one. Like I said he just really wasn't up to it that night, so I pushed him into it once again. While he was up there singing another song, the guys who asked him to sing again approached me, and asked my name. I didn't catch on at first. But after a couple minutes I realized that they had wanted Chad to sing so they can get me alone. Chad came back, happy that he had sang again and was all excited. But he could tell something had happened while he was gone. He knows me, and he saw my face. I told him nothing, the guys were still there and I didn't want to start any problems or ruin our evening. No. This doesn't fly with Chad once he knows somethings up, he's got to know what it is. So I told him. Now my Chadder tots is very sweet, kind, easy going, and mellow. Not a whole lot makes him angry, upset, and I have seen him yell ONE time. So when I saw him turn into a raging bull, I was scared for those guys. It took every tactic I could to get him to calm down. I mean everything. He was pissed. I completely understood. So we had one more drink, and called it a night.Why do people do this. Human nature? I know we have all experienced dry spells where we go a really long time without dating someone, and the few fish we snag are well dinky -_-. THEN.
All of a sudden we are settled, in a committed relationship, and every person decides to come out of the word work. The ex, the ex that screwed you over and now wants to apologize. Every guy that seemed to ignore you every other day of the week, is now suddenly interested. Just pretty much everyone. Well it took me a while to come up with a theory of why this happens. I think it is because of how we carry ourselves. I blogged about confidence, and how important it is. You can attract a vast number of people by being confident. Ass holes get a lot of women, mostly because of how they carry themselves. We all love confident people. When you are in a relationship, and you are happy you carry yourself differently, you have confidence. When someone who thinks they are attractive walks by you and they think you should be attracted them in return, and you show them absolutely no attention. It's like a mouse not being afraid of a lion. They do a second take, like really that person didn't just look at me. What it does is it peeks their interest. They want to know more about the person that doesn't care. Who are they. What are they about. What do they like. Most importantly. why don't they care.
This can be hugely frustrating to someone who's significant other gets hit on a lot. If it bothers you my best advice is that you stop letting it bother you. People will be people. You can''t help what they are going to. As long as your significant other does not respond to the affection in a brazen way, and more than what needs to be necessary. You really have nothing to worry about. Don't get ready to punch someone, have some class. It does not need to go that far. So three things. One if you are being hit on, and you are in a relationship and that person is present. Be polite as possible, you can respond with something witty like. "Thank you my girlfriend/boyfriend thinks so too". That way if acknowledges your significant other, and tells them you're in a relationship, AND they should get the hint. WIN WIN WIN. I love those scenarios. If you are being hit on QUICKLY tell them you have a significant other, it should be in your first line of response. Do not let the conversation develop, or else you will have a very sticky situation to get out of. Two. If your significant other is getting hit on, don't let it bother you. You never know that person may genuinely think they are single, or worse not see the ring. I know I know, whatever. Let it go. Three. Stay hot. If you are getting hit on in front of your significant other you are definitely doing something right:)
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